Dealing with Alzheimer
Dealing with Alzheimer
It’s a windy day in town, Delores and her daughter ( no reference to real persons intended) are walking down Main Street in a small, midwest town. Delores steps into a clothing store, she’s seen a wonderful dark green gown hanging in the shop window. She takes it from the hanger, joyfully, then stops for a moment, looking around the unfamiliar surroundings of the shop. Then she looks down at the garment in her hands, as if wondering how it got there.
She likes what she sees and hugs it to her chest, giggling with delight. After looking around this strange place once more, she heads for the door, towards the more familiar setting of Main Street. Joanne is distressed and takes her arm, leading her back into the shop. But Delores has found something she loves, way too small for her, and won’t let go. Feeling helpless and embarrassed, Joanne buys the garment, and they leave the shop together. One more crazy moment in a crazy day…
What is Alzheimer’s?
Alzheimer’s is a degenerative and progressive disorder of the nerve cells in a human brain. The cells or neurons are destroyed leaving behind language issues, simple thinking issues and considerable memory loss. In it’s initial stages, there is a failure of short-term memory as the cells of the hippocampus region of the brain are attacked.
Dementia is the typical resulting factor of Alzheimer’s in addition to intellectual functions usually in adults age 65 and beyond. The disease was named after Dr. Alois Alzheimer when in 1906 she went before a medical committee presenting a case of a 51 year old female suffering from a then rare brain issue. Further discovery (autopsy) showed evidence of “tangles” and “plagues” that today indicate cases of what we now know as Alzheimer’s disease.
Still with today’s medicine, scientist and doctors are not 100% sure whether these plaques and tangles surrounding the damage brain cells are the actual disease itself or simply what is left behind as a result.
Alzheimer’s and the Family
First and foremost, Thank You for visiting my site!
Welcome! My name is Therese, and I’m sure you’ve found your way here, because you’re looking for answers! You have a family member, relative or close friend with Alzheimer’s disease? It is my purpose here to help you find solutions and assistance in living or communicating with someone whose memory and cognitive abilities are damaged by this form of dementia. Also to explore any and all available measures to prevent or delay this disease, be it through nutrition, therapy or otherwise…
This is also a place to ask for and offer help and moral support from people who are also experiencing this difficult life challenge.
CO-DEPENDENCY AND ALZHEIMER’S
There are some very deeply engrained reasons for family members, ecspecially the children of AD patients, to seek help.
If you grew up in a halfways normal family, your parents were your anchor while you were growing up, and even into adult life.
Your first child, your newborn baby, who was most likely at your side in offering support, advice, help in caring, who gave you the confidence that you are a natural mother?
Your own mother…..
Choosing a vocation, excelling at school sports, finding your way in a tough world, who was the one who coached you, spurred you on, gave you the hard-knocks of the work ethic, but full of pride in you, a pillar of motivation in every storm?
Your own father…..
This strength from our parents is deeply engrained in our subconscious minds.
As we grew in independance and mastered life’s challenges after moving out on our own, this unconscious perception remained a part of our internal makeup.
As we grow in experience and years, it’s still there, in the form of character traits and the way we handle life.
But what happens when a parent develops Alzheimer’s disease, even at a very old age?
Logically speaking, we know that this can happen, know there’s a risk of developing this disease. But deep within us there’s a freeze-up against reality, a state of shock. The world of our soul, the world of the form of being our parents helped us become, turns upside down.
We find ourselves in a situation where a human being we trust and love and respect beyond words cannot sit in that place of honor we envision for them, from the heart.
Instead, cognitive abilities are lost beyond recovery. Normal daily activities and conversations crumble away, and our loved-ones begin to need more and more assistance, rather than being consulted regarding the wisdom of life and long experience.
Our innermost soul perceives this as deeply unnatural and falls in a state of stress or even resignation. It wants to shield itself from this reality, which should never be a reality……
It is my wish to find ways, through open communication, of being able to find a voice for this despair of family members.
Our psyche has a way of coping, over time. Much deep emotion or words unspoken are suppressed, pressed beneath our functional surface, otherwise we could not go about our daily business, and be there for our loved ones.
But our own health and well-being are important, too.
A place to share experiences, an opportunity for release is very necessary if AD patients and their families are to walk this walk together to the end.
There are no easy answers.
But maybe there is a shoulder to lean on. A pair of arms that can hold. A set of ears that has time to hear and a mouth that can assist in finding the correct help at the right time.
Thank you for considering my words and efforts and may your journey with your loved-one, having AD, be one where help is always there, and understanding, also.
With Best Regards